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03/09/19 09:51 AM #736    


Mike Floyd

Bob Bayliss sent me this to post for him.

The best years to be born in the history of Earth & we got to experience it all.  Thank God for all the times, the adventures, wars won, technology developed.  Generations after future generations will never experience what we did.  What a generations we turned out to be.



Interesting: born 1925-1955



Our Lives are LIVING PROOF !!!    

To Those of Us Born 
1925 - 1955:     
At the end of this email is a quote of the month by Jay Leno.

If you don't read anything else, Please read what he said.       
1930’s, 40’s, and50’s !!   
First, we survived being born to mothers who may have smoked and/or drank -While they were pregnant.  

They took aspirin, ate blue cheese dressing, tuna from a can, and didn't get tested for diabetes.  
Then, after that trauma, we were   put to sleep on our tummies   in baby cribs 
Covered  with bright colored 
Lead-based paints.  
We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, locks on doors or cabinets,   
And, when we rode our bikes,   
We had baseball caps,   
Not helmets, on our heads.  

As infants and children, we would ride in cars with no car seats, no booster seats, no seat belts, no air bags, bald tires and sometimes no brakes..  

Riding in the back of a pick- up truck on a warm day was always a special treat.  
We drank water from the garden hose and not from a bottle.  

We shared one soft drink with four friends, from one bottle, and no one actually died from this.  

We ate cupcakes, white bread, real butter, and bacon. We drank Kool-Aid made with real white sugar. 
And we weren't overweight.  
Because we were always outside playing...that's why!  
We would leave home in the morning and play all day, as long as we were back when the streetlights came on.   
No one was able to reach us all day ...   
And, we were OKAY.  

We would spend hours building   
Our go-carts out of scraps and 
then ride them down the hill,

Only to find out that we forgot about brakes. After running into the bushes a few times, we learned  To Solve the problem.  

We did not 
Have Play Stations, Nintendo   
and X-boxes. There were   
No video games, 
No 150 channels on cable,    
No video movies 
Or DVDs,    
No surround-sound or CDs,     
No cell phones,   
No personal computers,   
No Internet and 
No chat rooms.       
And we went 
Outside and found them!  
We fell out of 
trees, got cut,    
Broke bones and 
Lost teeth,    
And there were 
No lawsuits    
From those accidents. 
      We would get 
Spankings with wooden spoons, switches, ping-pong paddles, or just a bare hand, 
And no one would call child services to report abuse.  

     We ate worms, 
And mud pies    
Made from dirt, 
The worms did 
Not live in us forever.  
We were given 
BB guns for our 10th birthdays,  
22 rifles for our 12th, rode horses, 
made up games with sticks and 
tennis balls, and 
     -although we were 
Told it would happen- we did not put out very many eyes.  
We rode bikes 
Or walked to a friend's house and knocked on the door or rang the bell,  
or just Walked in and talked to them.


Little League had 
And not everyone 
Made the team.    
Those who didn't 
Had to learn    
To deal with 
Imagine that!!  


The idea of a parent  
Bailing us out 
If we broke the law 
was unheard of ... 
They actually sided with the law! 

These generations have 
Produced some of the best risk-takers,    
Problem solvers, and 
Inventors ever.  
The past 60 to 85 years  
Have seen an explosion 
of innovation and new ideas.   
We had freedom, 
Failure, success and responsibility,  
and we learned 

How to deal with it all.   

   If YOU are One of those born    
Between 1925-1955, CONGRATULATIONS!  

  You might want 
to share this with others who have had theluck to grow up as kids before thelawyers 
and the government regulated so much of our lives for our own good.  
While you are at it, 
forward it to your kids, 
so they will know 
how brave and lucky 
their parents were.  
Kind of makes 
you want to run through the house 
with scissors, doesn't it ?    
The quote of the month  
by  Jay Leno:  

     "With hurricanes,  tornadoes ,
fires out of control, mud slides, flooding, severe thunderstorms tearing up the 
country from one end to another, and with the threat of bird flu and terrorist 
attacks, are we sure this is a good time to take God out of the Pledge of Allegiance?"


03/09/19 10:11 AM #737    


Barbara Seely

I have seem this before but it's been a long time and it should come around more often to remind people how it was in "the good ol' days"!  In contrast to how children live now, we truly DID have it all.  It's appalling to me how these younger generations are growing up - nothing like what WE had coming along.  I laughed a lot revisiting this Jay Leno paper remembering how many of those "things" listed, I actually had have happen to me and my older brother.  In many ways, it's very sad to see the this country in the light of today.  We WERE VERY FORTUNATE.  Blessings to ALL. 

Barbara Seely

03/09/19 01:05 PM #738    


Melvin Katz

Loved the dancing video. Did you realze that the mans Shoes Matched the color of his suit!!!! At first I thought that was Sidney Padow dancing!!!! This reminded me that one of our granddaughters who is now 10, was going to a SOCK HOP and she did not know what a SOCK HOP was!!!! That's understandable but her Mom, our daughter aged 44, did not know either. Now that is sad!!! Also our 6 year old grandson is taking Basketball after school and the Coach told all the boys to go on the court and DRIBBLE. Our grandson did not know what DRIBBLING was? We were a very fortunate generation to have had SOCK HOP'S and WE KNEW WHAT DRIBBLING WAS. Those were the days alright!!!!

03/10/19 11:07 AM #739    


Sally Kincannon (von Rumohr)

Thanks, Bobby, for sending along your recent reminder of how lucky we all were to be born when we were — and able to enjoy the relative innocence of our high school years!  As I watch three of my five grandchildren go through high school, wonderful as their schools are academically, I don’t detect a lot of FUN being part of the process:-(.  The era of “mean girls” has impacted at least one granddaughter, “bomb threats” have almost become a norm at my grandson’s high school, and the enticement of drugs appears to permeate on some level at all three schools. Phew!  How lucky indeed were we!  My own recollection of high school stress had to do with my Latin teacher Miss Gray!  Pretty minor, all things considered.....

03/10/19 03:56 PM #740    


Russell Flammia

       Well spoken Sally.  We grew up at a wonderful time in a wonderful school community. It's unfortunate that today's youth have missed what we experienced and are growing up in a very different and not such a kind world. We enjoyed football, basketball, and other sports with frequent sox hops, and sorority sponsored fun filled dances with good bands. Guys didn't use profanity around the ladies like is often heard now.  A cadet corps with a band that played marches which stirried our sence of duty, honor, and country.  Too bad it changed. Let's hope for a better future.

03/10/19 05:00 PM #741    


Linda Fiske (Wehrle)

Bobby , thank you for reminding us how fortunate we are. And Sally you are so right. I have a son- in-law from Guatemala and a daughter -in-law from Ukraine  and they keep reminding us how fortunate we are to live where we do. 

03/11/19 08:06 AM #742    


Marilyn Wolfe (Ruben)

Wow!  I don't remember eating worms!  But some of the other stuff comes back to me!  I guess in some ways, living in the old-fashioned town of Yuma, Arizona reminds me of the 1950's!  Both homes I have had here remind me of Richmond in some ways.  People still drive down to Main Street on the weekends to see Rock and Roll Music Concerts and Plays from 20-50 years ago at the old renovated theatre, kids still ride bicycles and scooters and play basketball in the driveways on my street, teenagers still have dances at school and parties at their friends' houses, and most kids in my Granddaughter's generation stay away from cigarettes, liquor, and drugs, and get awesome grades in school !  The new generation may have more luxuries than we had, but I have great hope for them!  After reading my Granddaughter's first News Story in college, I am confident  that she will outdo ALL of us, as she has the goal of becoming a TV News Broadcaster!  This past weekend was the Air Show at our local Marine Base (5 minutes from our house!) and I watched the planes soaring over my house, heard them practicing all week long, and could hear the Marching Bands from two of our local high schools. The weekend before that was "The Old Car Show" with many "old folks" like us driving cars from the Pre-Post War Era and waving American flags; I am sure most of them are Vets!  I don't see a lot of dissent in Yuma, but there is quite a bit still in Phoenix.  I think a lot of it has to do with where you live. Small towns still have old-fashioned values, and the parents in my daughter's generation do also. I think you are going to see a turnaround in this country in the next few years, as these kids organize for "good stuff" and become professionals.  They are more solid than the kids in high school  & college during the late 1960's to 2000's, and watching them speak as a unified voice for their various causes is very inspiring to me!   They are finding out what's really important in life, and though they are young, they are not so innocent and naive as we were!  I love hearing about what they are learning and what they want to do with their lives!!  I can still come back to Richmond and see that even though it is changing in some areas, the core values we had are kids are still there!  I can empathize with our class and those who suffered through Latin & Algebra in High School and Statistics and Philosophy in College, but I know I won't ever have to do that again!  What kids are learning about now (Environmental Science, Current Events, How to Create their own Podcasts, International Travel)  will make the world a better place if we just "hold on" and watch them grow!  It's a lot of fun seeing the world through their eyes, and it lifts me up!  I still feel a sense of wonder when I listen to them speak; during the past year, I have met many young adults who are training to be Doctors, Engineers, Legislators, Forensics Experts, members of the Army or National Guard, and it is all very exciting to me!   I even met one young man who wants to be an Aerospace Engineer!  When he helps to launch a rocket and I am under the care of one of my Granddaughter's  friends who has become a Doctor, I will be so proud that I was lucky enough to see that happening!  We may be "slowing down," but they are revving up!!


04/17/19 02:50 PM #743    


Marilyn Wolfe (Ruben)

I just want to add a Good Wish here for a Happy Passover this Friday night to all my Jewish friends & a Happy Easter to everybody else!  I hope that  Elijah visits your house during the Seder and the Easter Bunny leaves many pretty colored Eggs in your grass & flower beds!  

It's been 3 weeks since my Cataract Surgery & I am "still healing."  I guess I am "the exception" to this as in everything else.  Dr. Dick Klein, you were right!  The followup is crucial !  I'm going in for my 3rd followup today, with my Optometrist!  The M.D. did a good job, but would not do the followup!  That was referred to an uncertified Medical Assistant, who did not see my scratched cornea!

The second eye will have to wait for a while, until the "complications" are gone!

04/18/19 02:21 PM #744    


Russell Flammia

     Marilyn many thanks for your kind thoughts to our classmates at Passover and Easter. You are so thoughtful. I hope your recovery from eye surgery continues to go well. 

       For everyone---Please keep Susie Bowles Angus and her family in your thoughts and prayers regarding the recent passing of her husband, Kenny.

05/04/19 01:48 PM #745    


Mike Floyd

I just received an email from Brenda Jenkins Armstrong that she and Jon lost their son Jon Armstrong Jr, on April 22, due to heart issue. It was sudden. He leaves his wife and 3 children.  

Please keep Brenda and Jon in your thoughts an prayers.

05/04/19 01:51 PM #746    


Mike Floyd

Brenda & Jon,

I am so sorry to hear of your loss.  Harriette and I lost our son 15 years ago at the age of 29.  He was single and living alone in Tucson, AZ.  My sister (TJ Class of 1960) lost her son 4 years ago.  He was 48 and he left his wife had two children one who was extremely autistic.  I know the pain you and Jon are going through.  There will always be a part of you that is missing, a hole in your heart that doesn’t heal, but the pain will become less intense with time.  Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.


05/04/19 08:38 PM #747    


Russell Flammia

Dear Brenda, I'm so sorry to hear about the passing of your son.  You and your family will be in my thougths and prayers.

05/04/19 09:43 PM #748    


Sally Kincannon (von Rumohr)

Dear Brenda,  There can be no greater loss than  one of our children.  My heart breaks for you.  Please know that  you have love and sympathy in great abundance, and also healing wishes to you and your family.  Our children, no matter their age, make us so vulnerable — to good times AND difficult times.  Please know that you are not alone.  Take care, Sally

05/05/19 07:40 AM #749    


Jo-Ann Olkowski

Dear Brenda,

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your son.  I can't think of anything more devastating to a parent. My thoughts will be with you and your family.


05/05/19 02:33 PM #750    


Allan Forman

Brenda, so sorry to hear the loss of your son. It’s the worst. Children are supposed to bury their parents, not the other way around. Take care. 

05/05/19 02:40 PM #751    


Allan Forman

Dick, thanks for your cataract advice to Marilyn. I used it myself. Just finished the second eye. Had two follow up appts with the doctor himself and he gave me his cell number should I need it. Very surprised. Both went well. 

05/05/19 04:51 PM #752    

Carolyn (Kay) Grinnan (Drinard)


Dear Brenda and Jon,

We were so saddened to hear of the loss

of your son. Please know that you and your 

family are in our thoughts and prayers. We

can’t imagine the great loss that you feel.

May the heartfelt sympathy of your friends

give you comfort at this devastating time.

With love,

Kay and Dan Grinnan

05/06/19 08:43 AM #753    


Mike Floyd

One of my favorite posting from Begin with Yes.

When we lose someone we love, we discover that time does not heal everything. After a while, the ache in our heart begins to ease a bit, and we laugh again, life goes on and many times we reconnect with those still physically with us in much deeper more beautiful ways. And eventually the good memories outnumber the sad thoughts and we begin to sense that what we thought was lost, has actually been with us all along. We can’t explain it, touch it or prove it – but there are moments we catch ourselves smiling because we know it's true. ❤ Begin with Yes

05/06/19 11:16 AM #754    


Marilyn Wolfe (Ruben)

Brenda  & Jon - I don't think we ever met at Tee Jay, but I  join my classmates  in extending my heartfelt condolences to you on the loss of your son!  I am so sorry you have gone through this ordeal, and hope you can find some peace in your good memories of him as well as the comfort provided by your family and friends. Life is so short, and we need to cherish each day like it is a gift!   Many prayers and blessings are being sent to you and your family as you go along your way. I wish I could be there to console all the people in our class who have lost those that they love, but this is the best I can do from 3,000 miles away.

05/06/19 12:43 PM #755    


Melvin Katz

Brenda: I want to add my condolances to you on the loss of your son. I am very sorry for your ,oss and wish comfort to you and your family at the loss you have suffered.

05/07/19 11:23 AM #756    


Brenda Jenkins (Armstrong)

Jon and I appreciate all the comforting words. We really did have the BEST class at TJ.
God bless each of you.

05/07/19 04:34 PM #757    


Marilyn Wolfe (Ruben)

Sorry I have been so out-of-touch lately!  I caught a nasty cold on Easter Day & have been fighting it, all the way through to a Wedding we attended in Texas last weekend!  I could not believe how GREEN Texas is!            I always thought those "Cowboy Movies"  were filmed there, but I guess more than I realized were filmed in Arizona, or places like El Paso!.......Allan Forman, you were lucky!  There is NO followup procedure in Arizona  by M.D.'s who do Cataract Surgery!  I asked & was refused. Also, the  Medical Assistants who do the follow-up are not Certified! The New Law to cover that was just passed in January, with a window of the next 7 months for them to take a course & pass a test to be Certified.  I am always "the tip of the iceberg" because Arizona is only 100 years old, instead of 412 years , like Virginia, or 243, like the rest of the original "colonies" turned to states.  I'm debating whether to return to the same facility for the second eye, or to declare my independence from "The Assembly Line!". Time will tell, but we have a lot of traveling yet to do this Summer, and I need to get rid of this cold!  There are a lot of allergies in the Desert this year!......Regards to all you classmates out there! 

05/11/19 04:51 PM #758    


Peggy Smith (Robins)

To Barbara Seely and T.J. friends, thank you for the birthday wishes.  Alex and I went to Florida to visit with my  sister and her husband, and I had a wonderful birhday.  We went to Sea World, which was so fun!  Many blessings to you all for a wonderful year ahead.  Love ya, Peggy Smith Robins

05/13/19 03:20 PM #759    


Marilyn Wolfe (Ruben)

Hi, Peggy!  Happy Birthday!  I see you loved Florida!  We try  to visit there each year & I love it, too!...........                    I remember you were in many of my classes at Westhampton!  I still have all those old photos from school!

05/18/19 01:44 AM #760    


Marilyn Wolfe (Ruben)

Just read the new story about Westhampton School. We will be in Richmond in June, so I hope there is something left of our school for my Granddaughter to see when we arrive.  I seem to remember that Belle Landrum said they were going to save one classroom for Memoirs of our days at Westhampton.  I hope that    still stands!  This new transition is breaking my heart & those of my classmates, as well!!

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