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02/26/19 06:56 PM #718    


Marilyn Wolfe (Ruben)

Melvin, your post from U-Tube had me in tears!  I have the record and it is so true, but I didn't know "American Pie" was the name of the plane that crashed & took away our 3 singers! So many memories!  I was once asked by someone a few years younger than I was what I thought of Bob Dylan, and I replied, "His songs are great, but he can't sing! Better to give the lyrics and tunes to Peter, Paul, and Mary!" (So the video confirmed that for me & proved I was not alone!) He didn't understand me, because he was from "The Next Generation" after ours, and they made him into an "Idol."  The same goes for Mick Jagger!  At the Rock 'n' Roll Museum in  Cleveland, Ohio, we saw the exhibits for Jimi Hendrix, Mick Jagger, etc. FIRST, then Paul Simon & Art Garfunkel, then the Beatles!  I kept looking for the Rock 'n' Roll Era and found it almost LAST: all the singing groups squashed into one little room!  When we finally reached the end of the Exhibit and saw all of the "Jazz Era Greats," it dawned on me that we had turned right at the entrance instead of left, and we had gone through the entire presentation BACKWARDS!  Proof: Jazz & Rock and Roll came first!  All the rest was just "imitation!"  PS - Someone I met here asked me, " What did you do when you were a teenager?  Sit around all day and smoke weed?"   He is about age 50.  "No!  I replied. "That was YOUR generation!  We DANCED!" (Enough said!)

Thanks for the semi-sweet memories!  Even though she sang years later, I miss Janis Joplin's rendition of "Me & Bobby McGee!"  The words really get to me!  I am writing a book about the past 25 out  of 30 years in Arizona, and I named my lead character "Bobby!"  That's not his real name, but it matches the song well.  I can't include the lyrics to the song due to Copyright Laws, but the emotional tug I get when I hear that song is just like the one from "American Pie!"  While she was studying American History in High School, my Granddaughter asked me: "Why did people cry when President Kennedy died?"  I replied, "It was the end of an era!"   How do we explain all this to kids in the next generation?  The violence, the politics, the confused young adults?  "It's all in the music!"


03/03/19 01:50 PM #719    


Marilyn Wolfe (Ruben)

Question for my classmates:  Has anybody (besides ONE classmate I asked months ago) had Cataract Surgery?  Please share if so, or use the private Messages on this website to do so.  I am "the next in line" 

in this family!

03/03/19 02:31 PM #720    


Sally Kincannon (von Rumohr)

Hi Marilyn,  I had cataract surgery done several years ago — first my left eye, then my right a couple months later.  Quick, painless and with good results:-). I’m sure your experience will be the same, if not better, as all these procedures tend to get improved upon constantly.  Good luck, and don’t hesitate to send any questions my way.  

03/03/19 04:23 PM #721    


Marilyn Wolfe (Ruben)

Thanks, Mike, Sally, Beverly, Carlin, Margaret, Jimmy, Melvin! That makes 7 classmates "who lived through it!" I am starting to get the jitters!  I need to find  something distracting to do!   You always had such pretty eyes!   I just wondered if this "goes up & down." It seems like those who had it end up with glasses anyway!  (I will need some for reading, they said! But no more "Coke Bottle Glass Lens!" -like I have had all my life since 4th grade!)

03/04/19 08:14 AM #722    


Beverley Caldwell (Trinkle)

Yes, Marilyn, I had cataract surgery about two years ago.  It went well and I no longer need glasses, other than readers.  Hope all goes well - take care, Beverley

03/05/19 01:47 PM #723    


Melvin Katz

Marylin: I must tell you that the whole procedure is very easy. My personal friend and also my General Ophthamologist, Paul Bullock, told me before he did the first eye then the second a few weeks later that each eye would take about 17 min. of his actual surgery. It was pain free. That was in May of 2014. I also explained to you earlier that I have another condition in my left eye called Central Retinal Vein Oclusion. This requires me to have injections into that eye now every 5 weeks. Yesterday I had such a treatment. This is not done by Paul Bullock, but rather by a Retina Specialist. They do numb the eye with drops before Dr. Ladd puts a device over the eye that opens the two lids wide and in place while he then takes the prefilled syringe and injects right into the eye. It is again, not painful at all. There have been some side effects but nothing of consequence and if they occur at all they disapate in 24 hours. If I were you, I would have no reservations from having your surgery done at all as the results will be a welcomed event in your life.................Melvin

03/06/19 12:14 AM #724    


Marilyn Wolfe (Ruben)

Thanks to all of you, Mike, Jimmy, Beverly, Sally, Carlin, Margaret, and Melvin!  It is good  to know I am not alone, when there is "a mystery that lies ahead!" I have seen 4 different eye doctors during the past 5 years, and all but one said,"It's not time yet!". The other one said, "There's nothing I can do!" (the Arizona motto) and told me to leave,without even offering to replace my scratched lenses!  I had to travel to Scottsdale to get a professional opinion or two!  

I suppose I'm lucky!  They made my Mom wait 14 years! 

My older Sister told me that when my Mom and her 2 Sisters went through this, they had to lie on their backs in a hospital for a week, with bricks on either side of their head !  Can you imagine that?   I would have "lost it," for sure!  Thank heaven for modern medicine!


03/06/19 02:12 AM #725    


Marilyn Wolfe (Ruben)

I went to "The Old Car Show" in Yuma last weekend!  They had cars going back to pre-war days!  I took  some great photos!  If you want to see any of them, email me at I felt like I was 5 years old again!- either that, or I was walking through a Car Museum!  There were 700 cars there! -all makes and models!  Wow! -- Has time flown!

It started about a mile or 2 from my house! (I walked there!) The drivers were almost all Senior-age  men! -only one young couple was in the "parade of cars" and two women in another one. This one was exactly like my Mom's car -- in Tee Jay Colors!  She drove me and a few classmates to school during our 4 years there! I miss that car!!!

03/06/19 01:01 PM #726    

Richard Klein

Hi Marilyn, I had my cataract removed 4 years ago, and it was a piece of cake. I was back at work in 3 days, and back to full phyical activities in a week.  I myself am an ophthalmologist, so I was intimately familiar with the procedure. I had a trusted friend do the operation.  There are possible complications, but they are very uncommon.  In picking the right person to do your surgery, It is important that you choose an experienced, trusted ophthalmologist who is an excellent technician, but also someone you can talk to and ask questions of.  It would be best to have an ophthalmologist who will examine you personally in the followup care after surgerty, and not delegate this to someone else.  You should ask specifically about this followup care. If you have any other questions, I am happy to answer them.  Best, Dick



03/06/19 01:43 PM #727    


Marilyn Wolfe (Ruben)

Thanks, Dick!  The Opthomologist I was referred to is in a group practice which has opened offices in 4 different locations and I think he did my daughter's Lasik Surgery about 15 years ago! ( I remember you entered  that line of work too!  My Sister was trying to get  me to come to New York to have it done at her Opthomologist's place  in New Jersey, and I wondered if that was YOU!) Anyway, we had a good  exam and talk about my eyes, and he double-checked the results of the Techy's  examination, so it's all good!  Last June, my Eye Doctor said "It's almost time!" But I think the Sinus Infection I had in Florida in January  "kicked it over the edge." (Maybe we should go there in the Fall next time!) I am hoping they will find there is more Cataract than Macular Degenera-tion in my Right Eye!  It's hard to function with only one eye!  They have a Followup Appointment scheduled after each Surgery, so I will be sure to ask the Dr. what he thinks!

03/06/19 03:02 PM #728    


Mike Floyd

Posted for Sally Kincannon von Rumohr.

Just received this from a college buddy, and thought it would fit right in with Bobby’s and Melvin’s recent “trips down memory lane.”  Might even inspire some of us to put on our (dusty?) dancing shoes:-)

.Click here to go to Video

03/06/19 05:40 PM #729    


Russell Flammia

Thank You Sally for sending such a wonderful video.  Go Senior Citizens!

03/06/19 06:31 PM #730    


Marilyn Wolfe (Ruben)

Yes, that was fun!  I saw it on my Facebook page a few times! But I never saw the folks in the background!  They say it's a Dance School Party, but it looks like a Wedding!   Everyone is so dressed up!  And boy, those Seniors can sure move their feet!

03/07/19 09:37 AM #731    


Russell Flammia

Dear classmates and friends,

                                         Thank you for the very heart warming comments I've received for my birthday. I feel very blessed to have received such nice remarks.  Isn't it wonderful that we can stay in touch so quickly and so often as we go through life's journey. I've so greatful for the comments you have made regarding my 75th brithday.  Time passes so fast.   Thank you again, hope to see you at the class lunch on April 13. 


03/08/19 07:21 AM #732    


Beverley Caldwell (Trinkle)

Dear Russell - sorry I missed it - hope you had a wonderful day. Take care, Beverley

03/08/19 04:23 PM #733    


Russell Flammia

Hi Beverly, 

                    I miss birthdays too, so being a little late is no problem  Thank you and take care.

03/08/19 10:17 PM #734    


Marilyn Wolfe (Ruben)


Whoever decided on the 33% donation to the Class of 2019 from the Luncheon at Padow's is some kind of genius!  What a great idea!  I wish I could be there!  Have fun!

PS- Russell, I was absorbed in a project & "just came up for air!"  I hope your birthday was fun!

03/09/19 08:29 AM #735    


Russell Flammia

Hi Marilyn, the fund raising event for the class of 2019 is going to be held at Chipolte in Cary Town.  Thanks keeping up with what's going on.  Have a good weekend.

03/09/19 09:51 AM #736    


Mike Floyd

Bob Bayliss sent me this to post for him.

The best years to be born in the history of Earth & we got to experience it all.  Thank God for all the times, the adventures, wars won, technology developed.  Generations after future generations will never experience what we did.  What a generations we turned out to be.



Interesting: born 1925-1955



Our Lives are LIVING PROOF !!!    

To Those of Us Born 
1925 - 1955:     
At the end of this email is a quote of the month by Jay Leno.

If you don't read anything else, Please read what he said.       
1930’s, 40’s, and50’s !!   
First, we survived being born to mothers who may have smoked and/or drank -While they were pregnant.  

They took aspirin, ate blue cheese dressing, tuna from a can, and didn't get tested for diabetes.  
Then, after that trauma, we were   put to sleep on our tummies   in baby cribs 
Covered  with bright colored 
Lead-based paints.  
We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, locks on doors or cabinets,   
And, when we rode our bikes,   
We had baseball caps,   
Not helmets, on our heads.  

As infants and children, we would ride in cars with no car seats, no booster seats, no seat belts, no air bags, bald tires and sometimes no brakes..  

Riding in the back of a pick- up truck on a warm day was always a special treat.  
We drank water from the garden hose and not from a bottle.  

We shared one soft drink with four friends, from one bottle, and no one actually died from this.  

We ate cupcakes, white bread, real butter, and bacon. We drank Kool-Aid made with real white sugar. 
And we weren't overweight.  
Because we were always outside playing...that's why!  
We would leave home in the morning and play all day, as long as we were back when the streetlights came on.   
No one was able to reach us all day ...   
And, we were OKAY.  

We would spend hours building   
Our go-carts out of scraps and 
then ride them down the hill,

Only to find out that we forgot about brakes. After running into the bushes a few times, we learned  To Solve the problem.  

We did not 
Have Play Stations, Nintendo   
and X-boxes. There were   
No video games, 
No 150 channels on cable,    
No video movies 
Or DVDs,    
No surround-sound or CDs,     
No cell phones,   
No personal computers,   
No Internet and 
No chat rooms.       
And we went 
Outside and found them!  
We fell out of 
trees, got cut,    
Broke bones and 
Lost teeth,    
And there were 
No lawsuits    
From those accidents. 
      We would get 
Spankings with wooden spoons, switches, ping-pong paddles, or just a bare hand, 
And no one would call child services to report abuse.  

     We ate worms, 
And mud pies    
Made from dirt, 
The worms did 
Not live in us forever.  
We were given 
BB guns for our 10th birthdays,  
22 rifles for our 12th, rode horses, 
made up games with sticks and 
tennis balls, and 
     -although we were 
Told it would happen- we did not put out very many eyes.  
We rode bikes 
Or walked to a friend's house and knocked on the door or rang the bell,  
or just Walked in and talked to them.


Little League had 
And not everyone 
Made the team.    
Those who didn't 
Had to learn    
To deal with 
Imagine that!!  


The idea of a parent  
Bailing us out 
If we broke the law 
was unheard of ... 
They actually sided with the law! 

These generations have 
Produced some of the best risk-takers,    
Problem solvers, and 
Inventors ever.  
The past 60 to 85 years  
Have seen an explosion 
of innovation and new ideas.   
We had freedom, 
Failure, success and responsibility,  
and we learned 

How to deal with it all.   

   If YOU are One of those born    
Between 1925-1955, CONGRATULATIONS!  

  You might want 
to share this with others who have had theluck to grow up as kids before thelawyers 
and the government regulated so much of our lives for our own good.  
While you are at it, 
forward it to your kids, 
so they will know 
how brave and lucky 
their parents were.  
Kind of makes 
you want to run through the house 
with scissors, doesn't it ?    
The quote of the month  
by  Jay Leno:  

     "With hurricanes,  tornadoes ,
fires out of control, mud slides, flooding, severe thunderstorms tearing up the 
country from one end to another, and with the threat of bird flu and terrorist 
attacks, are we sure this is a good time to take God out of the Pledge of Allegiance?"


03/09/19 10:11 AM #737    


Barbara Seely

I have seem this before but it's been a long time and it should come around more often to remind people how it was in "the good ol' days"!  In contrast to how children live now, we truly DID have it all.  It's appalling to me how these younger generations are growing up - nothing like what WE had coming along.  I laughed a lot revisiting this Jay Leno paper remembering how many of those "things" listed, I actually had have happen to me and my older brother.  In many ways, it's very sad to see the this country in the light of today.  We WERE VERY FORTUNATE.  Blessings to ALL. 

Barbara Seely

03/09/19 01:05 PM #738    


Melvin Katz

Loved the dancing video. Did you realze that the mans Shoes Matched the color of his suit!!!! At first I thought that was Sidney Padow dancing!!!! This reminded me that one of our granddaughters who is now 10, was going to a SOCK HOP and she did not know what a SOCK HOP was!!!! That's understandable but her Mom, our daughter aged 44, did not know either. Now that is sad!!! Also our 6 year old grandson is taking Basketball after school and the Coach told all the boys to go on the court and DRIBBLE. Our grandson did not know what DRIBBLING was? We were a very fortunate generation to have had SOCK HOP'S and WE KNEW WHAT DRIBBLING WAS. Those were the days alright!!!!

03/10/19 11:07 AM #739    


Sally Kincannon (von Rumohr)

Thanks, Bobby, for sending along your recent reminder of how lucky we all were to be born when we were — and able to enjoy the relative innocence of our high school years!  As I watch three of my five grandchildren go through high school, wonderful as their schools are academically, I don’t detect a lot of FUN being part of the process:-(.  The era of “mean girls” has impacted at least one granddaughter, “bomb threats” have almost become a norm at my grandson’s high school, and the enticement of drugs appears to permeate on some level at all three schools. Phew!  How lucky indeed were we!  My own recollection of high school stress had to do with my Latin teacher Miss Gray!  Pretty minor, all things considered.....

03/10/19 03:56 PM #740    


Russell Flammia

       Well spoken Sally.  We grew up at a wonderful time in a wonderful school community. It's unfortunate that today's youth have missed what we experienced and are growing up in a very different and not such a kind world. We enjoyed football, basketball, and other sports with frequent sox hops, and sorority sponsored fun filled dances with good bands. Guys didn't use profanity around the ladies like is often heard now.  A cadet corps with a band that played marches which stirried our sence of duty, honor, and country.  Too bad it changed. Let's hope for a better future.

03/10/19 05:00 PM #741    


Linda Fiske (Wehrle)

Bobby , thank you for reminding us how fortunate we are. And Sally you are so right. I have a son- in-law from Guatemala and a daughter -in-law from Ukraine  and they keep reminding us how fortunate we are to live where we do. 

03/11/19 08:06 AM #742    


Marilyn Wolfe (Ruben)

Wow!  I don't remember eating worms!  But some of the other stuff comes back to me!  I guess in some ways, living in the old-fashioned town of Yuma, Arizona reminds me of the 1950's!  Both homes I have had here remind me of Richmond in some ways.  People still drive down to Main Street on the weekends to see Rock and Roll Music Concerts and Plays from 20-50 years ago at the old renovated theatre, kids still ride bicycles and scooters and play basketball in the driveways on my street, teenagers still have dances at school and parties at their friends' houses, and most kids in my Granddaughter's generation stay away from cigarettes, liquor, and drugs, and get awesome grades in school !  The new generation may have more luxuries than we had, but I have great hope for them!  After reading my Granddaughter's first News Story in college, I am confident  that she will outdo ALL of us, as she has the goal of becoming a TV News Broadcaster!  This past weekend was the Air Show at our local Marine Base (5 minutes from our house!) and I watched the planes soaring over my house, heard them practicing all week long, and could hear the Marching Bands from two of our local high schools. The weekend before that was "The Old Car Show" with many "old folks" like us driving cars from the Pre-Post War Era and waving American flags; I am sure most of them are Vets!  I don't see a lot of dissent in Yuma, but there is quite a bit still in Phoenix.  I think a lot of it has to do with where you live. Small towns still have old-fashioned values, and the parents in my daughter's generation do also. I think you are going to see a turnaround in this country in the next few years, as these kids organize for "good stuff" and become professionals.  They are more solid than the kids in high school  & college during the late 1960's to 2000's, and watching them speak as a unified voice for their various causes is very inspiring to me!   They are finding out what's really important in life, and though they are young, they are not so innocent and naive as we were!  I love hearing about what they are learning and what they want to do with their lives!!  I can still come back to Richmond and see that even though it is changing in some areas, the core values we had are kids are still there!  I can empathize with our class and those who suffered through Latin & Algebra in High School and Statistics and Philosophy in College, but I know I won't ever have to do that again!  What kids are learning about now (Environmental Science, Current Events, How to Create their own Podcasts, International Travel)  will make the world a better place if we just "hold on" and watch them grow!  It's a lot of fun seeing the world through their eyes, and it lifts me up!  I still feel a sense of wonder when I listen to them speak; during the past year, I have met many young adults who are training to be Doctors, Engineers, Legislators, Forensics Experts, members of the Army or National Guard, and it is all very exciting to me!   I even met one young man who wants to be an Aerospace Engineer!  When he helps to launch a rocket and I am under the care of one of my Granddaughter's  friends who has become a Doctor, I will be so proud that I was lucky enough to see that happening!  We may be "slowing down," but they are revving up!!


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